You do you know. Control your feelings. It’s a fact. Remember back in highschool when your heart was broken and rather than deal with it in a rational manner you screamed your heart out after soccer practice, sobbing in public, making a fool of yourself? No…that never happened to you? Uhhhm me either. Well that was fear of being alone. That was fear of others thinking you weren’t cool. That was fear of being the fool.
You let that fear control you. It became a behavior not a feeling. Which is too bad, because fear is a feeling, and you control your feelings.
I recently read a great quote by Danielle LaPorte:
“Fear will tell you to contract. Open.
Fear will tell you to plow ahead. Pull back and wait.
Fear will tell you not to rock the boat. Dive in.”
I love this so much because so many times in my life I have felt fear and I have let it own me. I have let it smack me into submission, paralyzing me until that which I feared passed me by. Sad story but so true.
Writing a book last year when I had the opportunity.
fears: what if no one bought it? what if people didn’t like it?
Saying yes the first, or second, or sixth time that Peter, my boyfriend, asked me out.*
fears: what if someone in the industry thought it was bad I was dating someone in the industry?
* thank goodness he is persistent.
Putting my mobile app up on kickstarter 6 months ago when I knew it had legs.
fears: what if I don’t reach my goal? what if I create an app no one downloads?
Diving more deeply into parts of marketing that aren’t performance based.
fears: what if I wasn’t good at them? what if people became territorial and were mad at me for it?
These are almost embarrassing to admit. As I write them I realize just how much I worry about what others think, but I suspect we all do worry a bit more than we wish we did. Am I right? AM I RIGHT? Don’t leave me hanging here friends.
The best part of all this fear talk is the bitch slap moment – fear is a feeling and dammit I control my feelings. I control if they actually stop me or if I push past them. LaPorte suggests that we “pay them respect” by acknowledging them and then we ask ourselves… “if they weren’t there what would you do?”
Do that. Do that now. Right now.
You know I am getting my mobile app idea up on kickstarter, and there is a legit chance I won’t reach my funding goal. But guess what? I don’t care. Fear will not become a behavior for me. It is a feeling, and we control our feelings friends.
So rock on. Go think of something that you are afraid of, high five fear as you acknowledge it and then get on with it. Just get on with it already. You got this.